Relationships: “These ____ just don’t get it.”

(Written: January 10, 2018)

Today I had an Ah Ha moment and it occurred to me as I spoke with someone who knew me and I did not really know her. However she told me how she knew me and then the pieces came together. She must of knew that I was no longer involved in my last relationship, because this was the moment of the pieces coming together.

You see, nearly 10 months ago the relationship in which I was so sure would be the last, dissolved. And just a little prior to that and since then I have learned of at least 9 couples, including my own that has dissolved their relationships. The latest one was today. I thought how strange this was and was it because I was more aware of these unfortunate situations because of my own mounting of events that lead to my own? Then it hit me today, that Ah Ha moment. You know I heard that one of a mutual friend who too dissolved her relationship say, “These men just don’t get it.” That really got me to think how bashing this was towards men. Okay, maybe she experienced her own anger or bad situation and was just trying to confirm her place as a strong woman. But saying this to someone else, who also was going through this relationship drama, was not helping this person make her own judgements or decisions. But only fueling the fire of anger, resentment and separation of the slightest of love that was and could still be there. Now I am not saying love in a form of being “In love”, but a love and compassion towards another to end what was once a relationship based on two people caring and loving each other unconditionally. In fact, I think a true relationship should be based on that or strive to be that. However that is not why this post today.

It’s not about bashing one person or another. Disliking one gender or another just because things between two people did not work out. In fact, it is easy to behave and feel this way as we stay in our human form and moments, not realizing our spiritual being deep within is even valid. We forget. So therefore the anger and hatred rears its ugly self. I get it, I do get it. For so long the female species has been subservient and just let things be and they stayed quiet. Losing their power as a feminine goddess and going along with the male energy that has been. Now, it is true that the female energy is strong and it is coming to its moment of awareness on this planet at this time. I accept this and honor this. But, it does not mean that because of the many relationship endings around the world and even in your own circle that it is because of this tremendous shift. No, there is a time and place for this to be addressed.

Simply put, the women in relationships may have ended some relationships on their own validity and may have been part of the catalyst to make it happen. But then there are those men who also has done the same. Again, it’s not about, “Those men just don’t get it.” It’s about we both male and female do get it. Because when this separation between two people end, it is truly on a spiritual dynamic level, seen and unseen. True, maybe one was more outspoken and said, enough is enough. But maybe again that person really did not want it to end, but forced the hand never the less. Sometimes people do things that their inner true self is not ready for. Then the other person later gets that moment where it was a blessing and was meant to be. So it could be the man that doesn’t get it or the woman that doesn’t get it. So no one person is right or wrong, it just is and we pick up our broken hearts and move on the best we can. For some it takes time, for others it heals faster. But it is a time for both to learn from and to bless each other in the process. I’m not saying to be friends, but to be that spiritual being within each of us to know it is okay to have compassion and love regardless of the bitter and harsh memories associated with the breakup. This will take on its own time and place when need be. And, if the two can resolve the friendship, then even better because then you know that the growth of being an adult has truly been displayed. Why not, if one goes into the relationship as friends, then that friendship most likely should always be friends. Or, the two were really never friends in the beginning. Something personally I believe in and try to practice on my end, always have.

So I guess the bottom line to all this is there is no need for male or female bashing and who is right or who is wrong. The Universe is truly in control of this and we only have to be the best person we can possibly be in the stage called life. Sometimes this particular scene in life ends tragically and we have to trust in the process and bless and be grateful for all there is. Embrace the good times and let those not so good times heal within our hearts. Cherish the love that once was and know it was supported by the highest Divine authority. As such, trust that all will be made whole and complete again and that the next scene in our lives is about and ready to be presented. For life truly is the greatest gift and the greatest show on earth!

Peace and Abundant Blessings always.

Comment: Gary Long

David...

You really get to publish your work, my brother. Incredible awareness you have!!!

Namaste